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Beautiful Eyes

Sat 07 May 2011 15:53:19 | 7 comments

My grandfather used to tell me, “Sonny Boy, the Devil is not very smart, just make sure you are not dumber than he is.”


Those words have always stuck with me.  Recently when it was fashionable to wear a WWJD (What Would Jesus Do) wrist bracelet, I resisted, not because it was an objectionable idea, but because the answers seemed somewhat beyond me.  Rather, I often ask myself the question: “What Would the Devil Do?” 


Maybe that is why I have always been drawn to politics.


I’ve never shared this rather uninspiring mantra until now, because it was only recently that I saw the wisdom in it.


Having written a book about sex and contemporary culture, I now get invited to speak at various conferences under the assumption I understand the topic. 


Since I like to get out from time to time, I say yes and try to learn something wherever I go.


Sometimes I learn what not to say.


Sometimes I learn what not to eat.


But last month in Baltimore I learned about the Devil's IQ.


I was speaking at Convergence, which is a gathering focused on understanding the impact of pornography, the sex-trade and sex trafficking in the United States.


Convergence could be summed up as a conference that redefined for me the meaning of evil.  I knew all of the above were bad, but I didn’t know the extent of bad.


Why?  For me personally, ignorance, denial, and the lack of a human face contributed to my not understanding the gravity of it all.


Statistics are not much use to me.  To tell me that 300,000 young American women are caught up in sex trafficking every year doesn’t mean a lot – apart from the fact that I am in denial that sex trafficking is an American issue.  These 300,000 women are merely statistics rather than someone’s daughter.


Everything changed at Convergence, because it was there that I met the Devil.  He was a pimp, who explained how easy it was to get young women into the sex trade and keep them as long as they had financial value.


It seems my grandfather was right.  The Devil isn’t very smart.  He doesn’t have to be.  All he needs to do is to go to shopping malls around 1:00 p.m. on school days.  When he sees a young woman by herself, he can rightly assume she is relationally disconnected and looking for love on the shelves.


His approach is the same each time.  He goes up to her and starts a conversation by saying, “You have beautiful eyes.”  If she leaves, he lets her go.  If she stays, he knows he has her.


All he has to do is slowly romance her over the next few days or weeks.  Buy her nice things.  Constantly reinforce how special she is and how beautiful she is.  He merely has to do what her father never did.


As soon as she emotionally attaches to him, the pimp seals the deal by making her so aware of the threat to her life and to those she loves should she abandon him, that he has her for as long as needed.  Even if arrested, she will come back again, and again and …..


As I listened to the pimp speak, I could hear my grandfather’s voice.  “Don’t be dumber than the devil.”


The only reason the Devil gets his way, the only reason the pimp gets the girl, the only reason the man has a prostitute to buy is because the rest of us are acting dumber than the devil.


How could this multi-million dollar industry be undermined even if men continue to listen to the devil, and seek to buy what should never be bought?


Have fathers let their daughters know in hundreds of ways the beauty of their eyes.


And for those young women that don’t have that?


We merely need to get together a team of people who will go to America’s shopping malls for a few minutes each day at 12:45 p.m.  They simply search for the girls who are alone, walk up to them and tell them “You have beautiful eyes.  God loves you.  You are lovable.  Come with us and find the love that cannot be found on the shelves.”


We just have to find them before the pimps do.


What’s better is that the Devil has already given us the name for this new movement: “Beautiful Eyes.”


It’s a movement that only requires us to be a little smarter than the devil.

The Devil has even given us the introductory line; we just need to provide a different dialogue.


As Bono sings in City of Blinding Lights, “You don’t know how beautiful you are.”


Indeed.  There are thousands of young women who don't know.  We can do something about that.


"Beautiful Eyes" is a song we can sing in shopping malls across America, and beat the Devil.  It won't be hard.  He's not that smart.

  

Rev. Dale S. Kuehne, Ph.D. is the author of “Sex and the iWorld. Rethinking relationship beyond the age of Individualism.”  He is the Richard L. Bready Chair of Ethics, Economics, and the Common Good and founding director of the New Hampshire Institute of Politics at Saint Anselm College.  He serves as pastor of Emmanuel Covenant Church in Nashua, NH and is a regular ShareWIK.com columnist. 

 

Read other columns by Rev. Dale Kuehne here. 

 

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Comments

There are few things I loathe worse than spending time at the mall. This post makes me want to drop everything and rush over there and find someone who has "beautiful eyes."
Chris, let's hope there are more!
Dale, this should be a must-read for every parent with a daughter!!! I swear, a trip to the mall will never be the same for me again. What can we do????
Dale this is so doable. By just being aware and active we can prevent girls being lured into this evil world. I have already started to ask myself, "who do I just look past, around or not see who needs to be told that she is loved by God, and has beautiful eyes. I am a leader with the IJM (International Justice Mission) Advocacy groups who are putting efforts towards this battle, against sex trafficking and all forms of slavery. While IJM is focussed internationally, we work closely with Polaris Group, the leader in domestic anti-trafficking efforts. The TVPA (Trafficking Victims Protection Act) needs to be reauthorized this year. My family and I have been on Capitol Hill visiting our Reps and Senators to garner support for the bill to be introduced in the House and Congress in the next month. It will continue to combat sex trafficking in the United States as well as abroad. Please contact your Rep or Senator and tell them that it is important to you. Refer to it as the TVPRA 2011. Here is a link to help answer or suggest ways to help http://www.ijm.org/justicecampaigns. Thanks for writing this piece Dale.
Diana: Every time we see someone who looks lost, tell them they have beautiful eyes, hair, hands... goes for boys, too! After this post, I feel moved to notice people and to connect with them, no matter where I go. There is beauty in every person--sometimes they just need to have a caring person point that out to them.
Diana, you are right to ask the question, what can we do? Margaret is correct to say that legislative remedies really matter, we can and must join forces IJM and others to get this legislation passed. But, the fact remains that 300,000 young women are being caught up into this each year in our country. I am dialoguing with non-profits I know to see what can be done to help the young women at-risk today. If we can each start networking, we can do this. Not alone, but together.
Thank you, Dale, for this eye-opening piece. Makes me NEVER want to let my daughter go to the mall alone again. This is a must-read for her, and her friends. And it is going out to all the people on my email list. Thank you for the work you're doing. The Devil is busy, omnipresent, opportunistic, and legion. And the hurt caused by his work in this regard is lifelong and unchangeable, and will involve yet another generation of little girls unlikely to be seen as the beautiful daughters of God that they are. It's a cycle that MUST be stopped.



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