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It was a frosty day in mid December, when I spotted it across the backyard: a purple petunia fluttering in the wind.

At first, I thought my eyes must have been deceiving me. I mean how could a petunia possibly survive in the snow? But there it was, rising out of a sliver of soil between two patio bricks, just waiting to be discovered.

Earlier that year, I’d planted petunias in the backyard in a riot of colors. But they were gone, with the first frost, or so I thought. Now I was shocked to see that lone petunia sitting pretty, surrounded by a dusting of snow.

Even more surprising was the fact that I noticed it at all. At the time, I was so consumed with the memories of child sexual abuse that were flooding my consciousness that I was often “there” in body but not so much in spirit.

As I bent down to touch the delicate flower, I was struck by its hardiness. Delicate, yes, but tough too. Its double ruffles refusing to wilt or fade.

Later that evening, as I described the purple petunia to my husband, he smiled. That purple petunia and I had something in common, he said. It was small and delicate yes. Yet tough, too, refusing to shrink or die. Not a victim or even a survivor. But a spirited warrior.

It’s been more than a decade since I discovered that flower, but through the years, as I’ve traveled my healing journey, I’ve never forgotten that purple petunia. Back then, that flower gave me hope and strength. And on days when my world seemed shaken beyond recognition, I was able to recall that image of the miracle flower. Delicate and fragile. Strong and determined. Unwilling to call it quits.

When we’re going through a tough time, whether we’re healing from abuse or grieving the death of a loved one, there are always signs of hope along the way.

Though they may be difficult to see, they are there, I assure you. But you need to slow down and take the time to notice. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking a deep breath and looking around and becoming aware of whatever you can see or smell or touch.

Because when we’re able to become present and notice what’s right in front of us, instead of getting lost in our thoughts, we can see the signs of hope and healing all around us. Signs that remind us that we are strong and resilient and on the right path.

What signs of hope and strength have you noticed when you’ve dealt with a difficult life transition?

Are you dealing with job loss, the death of a loved one, or another challenging life transition? If so, I’d love to help out. Visit my website at http://www.ellen-brown.com to sign up for an introductory coaching session or a coaching package that’s right for you. Since coaching sessions are conducted by phone, I can work with clients anywhere in the world.

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Ellen Brown is a certified professional coach, based in Cleveland, OH, and a regular columnist on ShareWIK.

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